Yes, No, Maybe So

I read this post a while back and I didn’t realize how profound it was until I started thinking this way daily.

Yes and NO – are you aware that every yes has a no attached and every no has a yes attached?? Read this post: and come back

http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2010/11/30/how-saying-yes-and-no-shape-a-life-story/

thanks for coming back :)

The “take away” I got from this as a mother of little ones that every time I say Yes to something (or someone) I am saying No to something else I could be or should be doing.  Right now as I type I am saying yes to blogging and no to the whites that need to be folded in the dryer. (Ha!) Get it? Ok – so think of what your yeses are automatically saying no to.  Saying yes to others too often may mean that you are saying no to your family too often.  Balance is what it is all about… not mommy guilt…keep in mind what is priority when choosing what is getting a yes and what is getting a no…  

Like she said in her post, you get into trouble when you say yes to the yes’s and yes to the no’s too… decoding: when you say yes to something, the automatic no to other things is there, ignoring it and trying to do it all is just overwhelming and stressful.  To avoid this – we must be intentional about our yes’s and pay attention to the attached No’s.   If they attached no is not an option.. maybe we should re-think the yes…?

I am also guilty of saying yes too often to the lesser important things and no to the more important – it is more difficult to say no others than it is to say no to your husband/kids and home…

Looking at a situation thru the filter of “are they trying to take advantage of my Yes’ness?” is helping me to decipher what gets a yes and what gets a no.

I can honestly say that saying “NO” to Gift Chick this Christmas was a wonderful decision.  I loved my job – I am sure that was obvious, but the “busy-ness” and total occupation of my time and energy was not something I was willing to say yes to since I knew the automatic no would be to the kids during the Christmas season… not. worth. it.    I am loving and enjoying the freedom of my time and the ability to choose what to do each day with the kids without stress and obligation.  I had to say no to something I loved to be able to say yes to something I love wayyy more.